Now I am living in a Dutch environment but to this day I enjoy speaking English with by brothers and sister. We don't do it all the time but is feels so "comfortable". Even on the telephone we just switch from one language to the other.
It's good to have a family language plan. A language expert writes about it: Family Language Planning - A Tool For Success.
So what was my parents' plan? I'm not sure but here are a few things we did:
- Wrote Dutch letters to our family
- Sang Dutch children's songs, especially on long trips in the car! My mum knew lots of songs and loves singing. Songs like "Hansje Pansje Kevertje die klom eens op een hek..."
- Carried kilograms of children's books in our suitcases when returning back to Africa. This was in the time before you could order books through the internet.
- Were members of the children's library in Harare, Zimbabwe (that was 366 kilometres from Bulawayo where we lived).
- Had Dutch lessons during the holidays. As kids that was terrible, but now I am terribly grateful!
- Read many Dutch children's books.
I just want to encourage parents raising multilingual children. Please don't give up. I know it takes effort but know that in the long run your children will be grateful. Recently I have spoken to third culture kids who cannot speak their mother tongue well and they really regret it. A good site for information on this topic is Multilingual Living. Read this good advice on their website: 10 things you should NEVER say to your bilingual child.
Here's some food for thought on this topic:
- Make language learning fun.
- Don't listen to people who think that speaking the native language at home should be stopped.
- Be patient. Being patient is the key for your child to build confidence in a second language.
- Find material that helps with the language learning (like DVDs, computer games, books, CDs).
Do you have thoughts on this topic? Parents do you have advice for other parents? Third culture kids do you have something to add? Please share your comments. (Photo thanks to Griet, Morgue file).